Better is a dinner of herbs where love is than a fattened ox and hatred with it.
A plate of vegetables at a table full of love, or a feast surrounded by resentment — this proverb doesn't pretend the second option isn't tempting. Abundance looks good. But it names something almost everyone eventually learns the hard way: what's on the table matters far less than what's in the room.
You've probably lived some version of both sides. The cramped apartment that somehow felt like the safest place on earth. The beautiful house that felt like walking on eggshells. Circumstances and atmosphere just aren't the same thing, no matter how much our culture insists that more space, more money, more stuff will fix what's actually a relational problem.
This isn't really about food. It's a quiet argument for what to actually prioritize — the kind of home you're building, not just the kind you can afford. That's a question worth asking honestly, whatever your current situation looks like.
If you're wondering what actually makes a home feel safe rather than just full, that's a thread worth pulling on further.
A short video on this is coming soon — for now, read on.