Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
"Outdo one another in showing honor" is an odd kind of competition — everyone trying to lift someone else up instead of racing to be noticed first. It's the opposite of how most relationships, even close ones, tend to drift.
Think about how easy it is at home to keep score instead: who did more, who said the wrong thing, who owes an apology. This verse points somewhere else entirely — toward a kind of love that actively looks for reasons to value the people closest to you, instead of waiting for them to earn it.
That's a high bar, and nobody hits it consistently. But it's worth asking what a home would actually feel like if this were even half-true in it — if the people under your roof were more often trying to honor each other than trying to win. That's a picture worth wanting, whatever you think about where it comes from.
If a home like that sounds like something you'd actually want, it's worth exploring where that kind of love is described as coming from.
A short video on this is coming soon — for now, read on.